Hello all,
Marriage is a social contract to bring two people altogether. It is a beautiful feeling and experience to enjoy the company of a new one in a romantic and loving environment. In Pakistan and India, mostly mediocre used to raise this topic and make fun by telling jokes on this topic or by making plans with their children since the childhood. For most girls in remote areas, the most favorite activity is to make arrangements for their doll’s marriage. The reason for this all is just to make them more curious about this relationship. That is why; this day becomes very memorable and full of excitement for all. Brides and grooms wish to make this day so special that it would remain in their memories as a mark of joy.In our society, the tradition of “Salami” by relatives is very popular. It is a contribution to the parents of bride and grooms to make arrangements for marriage. This “Salami” is according to the bonding of relationship; the closer you are; the more contribution you have to do. It could be in the form of money, dress, gift or household item for the brides and money or gift for the groom. On the other hand, it was refunded with some extra when the other’s marriages took place. Extra was once called “Nee-on-dra”, it was to strengthen the relationship; If you do not want to go further with anybody, then payback only what you received. It was a silent and expressive way of cut off. It sounds weird but it was very good until it was performed in a simple way. But now, likewise other tradition, this has also changed a lot.
Marriages have now become a good way to show off and to depict one’s power of social contacts and economic strength. People have no more concern with small “Salami”, they just want to invite their big contracts so that they could influence others. Huge parties are being thrown for publicity. A lot of money is destroyed extravagantly at food, clothes, decoration, music, lights, fireworks, photography, recording and transportation. People book good venues for marriage, arranging marriage halls and gardens. But this is not enough, this marquee, hall or garden should be a renowned one or famous in elites so that every participant can be impressed. Therefore, they hire professionals for new ideas and approaches.
This trend is spreading all over the world; event management is a growing profession among youngsters. They know that people are keen to spend on such social occasions. Once, it was an event of two to three days but now turned into months. Prior and after functions have been generated for enjoyment such as Bridal Shower, Bachelor Party, Dholki (This one is longest in days), Mayon, Ubtan, Mehndi, Wedding, Walima and so many receptions. Event managers are giving different themes to each function. From the dress to an environment, everything has to be planned earlier.
In India, a bride is supposed to be a girl covered with gold jewelry and her parent are being believed as Alladin’s Genie who will fulfill each and every demand of groom’s family. From start to the end, bride’s families have to suffer a lot and bear most of the expenses, even for the other side. The bride is also not farewell alone but with a huge dowry in shape of dresses, furniture, car/bike, utensils and other household items. Moreover, taking in a bride along with a demanded amount has also become a tradition. It is said that it is a gift from girl’s parents while everybody knows it well that it is a forceful act. Gift of new houses or furnished ones is also in demand while after marriage demands are separate to be mentioned.
No doubt, it brings so many colors to this occasion but only to those who have many resources. People living in middle standard always imitate elites or upper class. For this, they cross every limit whether it is to borrow money from anyone or to pledge their properties for loans. In a mediocre family, there are a few to earn and many to eat, so they hardly manage to coup up with all responsibilities. Many people try to use unfair means to get extra money for their needs that bring negativity in a society.
According to me, people having good resources and at upper level should take incentives and come forward to be role models for other to simplify this event. There is obviously no need to feed so many people. It is totally a private function and its requirement is just an announcement that these are two people who decided to live together. For this matter, a small gathering of relatives is quite enough. It will be a blessing for those who are suffering from the fears of this forced extravagance in their life.
Need more good suggestion in this regard and hoping for a positive change……
Best regards.
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